The wedding day is the “bride's day,” but at what point should she no longer be accommodated? It's a question that bridesmaids (sheepishly) ask us a lot.
Watch any of the Bridezilla episodes and you will know what we are talking about. But then, we also kn ow that no one thinks that they are a Bridezilla. Check out part 1 and part 2 in our series on the subject, and see if it applies to you!
I agree. My maids are having the tendency to push certain pricey things on me. They don't seem to understand that I can't afford some things and am forced to go a slightly "tacky" route. I try
my hardest to keep any cattiness at bay. That's all I ask of them.
I do realize that there are probably things that I do that I may not notice myself doing So to head off any issues, I try to do things like taking them to lunch and going to see Bride Wars. It
was a good day.
That's a great idea to take them out to ward off any issues. I had to de-select a bridesmaid b/c her opinion would always be known, she would never let up, and honestly she hasn't had a boyfriend in 10 years. I think the bridal party should be supportive, offer advice, and be a great sounding board. I have one women and two men standing on my side. That means I only have to worry about the opinion of one women-the men honestly don't care. Honestly, as untraditional as it seems it's been a life saver not to have two many women getting involved.
B2B SOS
Calling all brides-I need some help. Did anyone experience any negative issues after you got engaged with your fiance? Steve and I are having some troubles communicating and it was never like
that before. He is always moddy-stressed or angry and I don't know how to fix it. I didn't push for the ring, it was a total surprised, I have got most of the plans done as I am an event
planner during the day, I haven't overwhelmed him with details, expenses or money problems. I just can't figure it out. We fight 2-3 times a week and last night we slept seperately and he wants
to see a counsellor. There has to be someone out there that can relate and offer this bride some wisdom. Isn't the Bride suppose to take on all the stess-not the groom! We have been together
for 4.5 years and engaged since September 2008.
Please help..I don't know what else to do and I don't want to have to cancel my wedding without trying my hardest to save us!
I had the same problem. At first he was excited and we and he called everyone. I started planning right away (I don't even have a ring yet) I think he got freaked out that I just jumped right into planning. I think he expected more time to process the idea. i tried to not talk about the plans incessantly, but that's hard. As i posted previously, we rescheduled the date. this was due to financial difficulties, but it was also the way we were getting along. Since we've rescheduled, it's been like night and day. We are getting along great. I just hope that when I start actively planning again, he doesn't get wierd again. We;ve agreed to get our rings as soon as we can and we've reset the date for 1 year later. I insist on summertime and we both liked the date. I hope this helps. I know rescheduling is a huge deal, and I'm not saying this is the only solution, but maybe asking him if the pressure of it all is what's causing the problem. Best wishes to you!
NEED HELP: Soon to be step daughter problem!!! Ok, I have kind of a real problem, something that has bothered me since I met my fiancee, we are both older, both 42, I've been married before and have 3 children and he has never been married before and has 2 children that he has raised and let me tell you, they are the most disrespectful kids I have ever met but I've come along way with his 11 year old son, my problem is his daugther who is 19 and we have thrown out of the house do to her heroin addiction, the problem is, is whenever she comes over with her boyfriend and her friends or we are around a group of people even friends of ours that are our age she is ALWAYS running up saying "daddy, daddy, i love my daddy, i'm daddys girl" you know, things like that, that wouldnt bother me so much if she was younger and she didnt do it for attention, my problem is, is how do I get her to NOT do it the day of our wedding at our reception, it absolutely drives me nuts and puts me in a bad mood the entire day/night, i'm not jealous of her by any means but she has told her dad that I stole him away from her which is absolutely rediculous, he's had a lot of girlfriends through the years, I wasnt the only one, so what do I do, I've had talks with her before telling her I don't hate her and she still has her dad but I don't want this stupid attention act at our wedding, it's our night not hers!!!!! please help
When it comes to being a step-parent unfortunately you have the short end of the stick. The truth is that although she's 19, she's still his child, and will be forever. You mus take the high
road, and give more than she is. If you were getting married and there were no kids invovled, it could just be your day, but since there are kids, it's not just about you anymore. If you ever
want to have a relationship with her, you're going to have to give, otherwise you will create a situation where you're going to push her away further and at some point this will also have an
effect on your relationship with your husband.
On the issue of her heroine use, that's an issue that does require intervention, but it needs to come from her dad, not the step parent.
Going to be a step mom! I can relate totally to what you'[re saying! Even the response card my 22 year old future "step-daughter" sent back said "congrats daddy, I luv you, Hi step mommy!" We announced our engagement and she tried SO hard to be in the wedding PARTY! This (thankfully) is his only, but I have 4 myself so I just told her none of the children will be in the wedding its only fair! That was last year, OK so she will be serving the cake, I found a pacifier! And I know it will give her the chance to "boast" to the guests that "that's her daddy." If you can come up with a simple job like this for yours that will involve her she may redirect the light towards the two of you appropriately being proud to be a part. The drug thing I can also relate to unfortunately too. But that is one of my own. I do not allow any of his acquaintances in my house. He doesn't stay long or come over so much but I do not get the disrespect anymore.
Nick's mom I suggest you talk to your soon to be husband. He is the one who has to discipline the "kid". She is indeed an adult and needs to start relating to people as such. It's her parent who needs to teach her, you can only enforce your boundaries.
Having the history of a past bride. I believe some of the bridesmaids can make you get a little ugly. They don't understand that this day is'nt about them.It's about the bride and groom. And not to sound mean, when they day come or has past they can pick and choose what they like. Being a attendant is exactly what it is being supportive and keeping your thoughts to your self unless asked......