Real OurWeddingDay.com brides, sharing their personal planning experiences.
I’m rather excited today. I just confirmed that Jonathon and I can get the second set of engagement pictures taken on Friday. They are low-key and informal. We aren’t even taking a real photographer, just a friend who is good at photography and understands how to photograph us well. But these engagement photos are special. I wanted to do something really nice for Jonathon. Boys don’t get into weddings the way girls do. Thus, I contemplated how to make the whole event special for him as well.
That’s what I really want to talk about. The special engagement session I’ll show you next week. But most brides have this notion that the wedding is all about them, it’s their day and they have been imagining it since they were young girls. I imagined my wedding a bit as a child as well, but mostly it was just me and some guy and big dress and punch and little girl dreams. I have grown up and I also know that marriage (and the wedding) is about TWO people. So, I have tried very hard to include Jonathon in the planning process.
We had weekly meetings when we first started planning. We discussed every detail. He put in many comments, said no to some things, and had great ideas. Often I was surprised how great and romantic his ideas were. He helped me pick the venues, the guest list and even went to the florist with me. He helped pick our color scheme. He helped with the invitations, the dress (and while he has seen the dress he hasn’t seen it on me yet and I don’t plan for him to see it on me…. until our wedding day), the entrance, the music.
That is what a marriage is about… a partnership from the beginning. Plus, wedding planning is a whole lot more sane when the groom has veto power. Big poofy pink and hearts is probably not most guys thing. I’m really proud of my man. He has been the best and most involved groom I know. He is invested in the wedding with more than money. It shows, he cares about the wedding and what goes on. Do you have an involved groom?
Oh and the engagement pictures? Well, it’s a surprise for him and you.
-Amy
I completely agree. I have have an amazing fiance (TJ) and he is just as excited about our wedding as I am. He likes to talk about all the details and wants to have say in everything. We have been having so much fun planning our wedding and I can't imagine having to do it all by myself. I wedding is about the commitment between two people who love eachother and I think that planning it together brings on a new kind of bond.