"Surveys of married adults suggest that opposites attract when it comes to emotional reactions toward spending," Wharton's Scott Rick and Deborah Small and Northwestern's Eli Finkel said in the paper. They found that people who generally spend less than they would ideally like to spend, and those who spend more than they would like to tend to marry each other.
Interesting! Opposites attract,' indeed! Do you and your groom fit this study's findings?
Absolutely true for my fiance and I. I save like crazy, whatever I can. That's my way of "enjoying" life and feeling secure, while he would rather enjoy life in the moment and spend spend spend! We've come up with a few "rules" that are helping us deal with our differences of opinion regarding finances and saving vs. spending.
My fiance is the one who will go drop $20 on lunch everyday and then complain that we don't have any money... and I am willing to eat left overs and ramen noodles everyday just to save money! We are complete opposits on saving and spending. He is deffinately the splurger and I am the penny pincher. My only question, how do you fix this without treating him like a child and giving him an allowance every week for lunch?
Why not sit down as a couple and budget for his splurges (and yours) then its not like you are giving him an allowance so much as working together to make both of your lifestyles work for you. The fact is that its his money too and you can't tell him how to spend or he'll resent you, but if you work together to find a way for him to have some fiscal freedom and you to feel like you are living within your means and saving everyone will be happy.
My fiance spends money very little at a time and then he wonders why I am always trying to save as much as I can so I can buy what I want when I have enough money. I am the penny cruntcher of the relationship and he is the spender and we are both aware of it! But this is part of the struggles and descisions of a marriage. We will figure it all out!
Honestly, we are both penny pinchers it took us months to decide on buying a house weighing out the value and prices. I dont think there are these set rules on who you love. we are both home buddies, work a holics and big pet charities. My parents were true blue opposittes I believe they're passion for eashother literally burned eachother into divorce. there is always common ground. plus who wants to be a parent of their spouse when it comes to money.
I don't know, but I'll say that the "Piggy and Kermit" opening to this article gives you some idea as to what the survey-ists want you to think! (opposites for certain!) I'm a big fan... of those two, that is!
Ha! We couldn't help ourselves! We love Piggy and Kermit. Is it possible not to?
This is true for us. I like to spend more and my soon to be hubby is a penny pincher!