Marnia Robinson over at the Huffington Post is offering advice on ways to stay in love. She advocates a series of physical cues and behaviours, basing in part on interactions between mother and child, and between wild animals!
"As my husband and I stroked a live alligator resting calmly on a trainer's lap at a fair, I asked the guy why it was so tame. "I pet it daily. If I didn't, it would quickly be wild again, and wouldn't allow this," he explained.
Only months earlier I had begun to comprehend the power of bonding behaviors (skin-to-skin contact, gentle stroking and so forth). These subconscious signals, or attachment cues, speak directly to the only part of the brain that can fall in love or stay in love (the limbic system). They make emotional ties surprisingly effortless--once any initial defensiveness dissolves. And bonding behaviors are good medicine for relaxing our defense mechanisms, too."
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