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Paul Mitchell and Vidal Sassoon: Weddings Bring Hair Care Dynasties Together!


We're totally "wigging out"over the latest Altarcations, in which The New York Times' Weddings section is reviewed.

Believe it or not, in the Vows column this week the marriage of Paul Mitchell's son Angus to a former Vidal Sassoon employee, Michelle Raab, is discussed.

As if this coming together of hair care-dynasties weren't enough, the two throw hair puns around they're going out of style!  Check out these choice quotes:

  • "He looks like someone who could break your heart so bad, it would have split ends."
  • "At his salon, Angus M, hugs are like mints: offered when you walk in and when you leave."
  • "She insisted they forget the kiss—make it vanish like gray hair."
  • "Mr. Regidor went on to describe love in a way that made it sound like a rich conditioner, something that heals and takes the tangles and difficulties out of life."

Wow.  Just wow.

Read this week's complete Altarcations here.

Real 4th of July Weddings Reviewed


It's time for another installment of Altarcations over at Gawker, where Phyllis Nefler "reviews" the Weddings section of the Sunday New York Times.  Since this Sunday was the 4th of July, Nefler was much more interested in celebrating our country than individual weddings:

"Given the holiday we're going to have a slightly abridged segment of Altarcations today; I don't particularly feel that I should devote the entire morning of our nation's birth to those couples who can't get married on a normal 2-day weekend like the rest of us. But anyway, before we begin, please enjoy this touching, heartrending video of Ted and Gracie [above], the happiest of couples."

After the sweetness of that video, things turn a bit more risqué with other couples, from too much drinking and partying, to a shout-out to The Jersey Shore!

Check out all the loveliness and debauchery of this week's Altarcations here.

What Do You Think of Married Couples Who Live Separately?


Meet Sandra & Todd Foster: She's "42, a size zero and wears pink wellies, black tights and a paint-spattered Irish knit sweater over a brown jersey."  He is 51 and "a man whose chest gives the impression that he has to go through doors sideways. An independent spirit who left high school at 15 to see the country, he has worked as a carpenter, a cook and a landscaper."

They married in 2000, despite of the fact that they are very different people:

“This is when I discover, much to my horror, that Todd and I aren’t completely alike,” Ms. Foster said. “He is not a tidy man, he likes to collect things and stuff, most of which is very large, like tractors. My idea of houses is Victorian, cute, magazine-perfect, lots of white.

Their different ideas about decoration and homelife came to a head when they were renovating:

“The huge house was half renovated, the life was killing me,” she said. “The only thing holding me together was Todd’s love, and his love of food and feeding me, and his love of flowers. Every single day I come here, there are flowers. A whole path of rose petals leading to a bath full of rose petals and candles. He’s a magical man, despite his flaws.”

Their great big farmhouse, they realized, was ruining their lives. In 2007, they found this wooded property, with the trailer and cabin, for $46,000. Ms. Foster, seeing the hunting cabin on the hill, knew it could be her dream house.

“It was like coming home,” she said, after Mr. Foster had gone to do chores and the conversation had moved up the hill to her cottage. “I get tears in my eyes thinking about it. It was everything I had dreamed of, in every novel I had read, every song I had heard.” (via The New York Times)

So now she has her dollhouse-like private space and he has his "man-cave" ("a truck-size shed covered by an enormous tarp. It’s furnished with a big-screen TV, lots of videotapes, cooking equipment and two lamp-warmed cages for the chicks and pheasants."), and they couldn't happier.

The Fosters are hardly an everycouple, but maybe their arrangement deserves to be more popular: Married life is complicated and famous married couples often make it work: Helena Bonham-Carter & Tim Burton have separate houses nearby one another.  And Dolly Parton's 35-year marriage remains happy in part because she spends so much time away from husband Carl Thomas Dean, that their time together always feels magical to them.

Bonham-Carter famously said, "to me it makes complete sense: if you've got some money, and you can afford it, why not have your own space?"

And the Fosters are proof that creating that space can be achieved pretty modestly (he's out of work and money is tight).

Obviously, for many a shared living space is a financial or childrearing necessity. And for others, the benefits of togetherness outweigh the annoyances of compromise.

But for others, the readily-available option of distance perpetually makes their hearts grow fonder.

Treat Your Groom Like a Dog If You Want to Be Happy Together


Check out this new article over at The New York Times: What Pets Can Teach Us About Marriage.  It features sage advice, like:

"There is a natural tendency to forgive pets their trespasses – after all, the dog wasn't trying to torture you by eating the mail. Was your partner really trying to torture you by putting it in such a safe spot it can't be found?"

Okaaaayyy...  But wait, there's more:

"When you do return home to find that your cats have redecorated the room with shreds of every tissue they could find or the dog has eaten some of the mail, you may well react with a choice expletive but you are not likely to hold a grudge. You are still going to be petting Donatello or cuddling with Thor the next day."

So it's a silly article, which summed basically advocates for treating spouses like adorable idiots.  We're not really endorsing that.  But it made us chuckle anyway.

The First Anniversary of Altarcations is Marked with Severe Crankiness!


After taking last week off, we're happy that Phyllis Nefler is back reviewing the weddings in The New York Times this week over at Gawker, on this, the first anniversary of launching as a regular series.

But don't expect that happy occasion to sweeten Nefler's wit!  In fact, she begins on a particularly sour note with a miserable prediction of the summer ahead: "By August, most folks between the ages of 25 and 40, down to their last dollars and their last nerves, will openly despise weddings and all they comprise: the room blocks, the registries, the receptions, even the romance."


Actually that sour note is pretty consistent throughout, with happy couples "winning" dubious awards from Nefler, like "The "Oh, I Didn't See You There, Mister Hired Photographer!" Award, for Most Startled and Open-Mouthed Portrait."

It's still pretty funny and meant with love (we think/hope).  Check out this week's extra cranky Antarcations here

This Week in Altarcations: Hyphenating Names, Taking the Bride's Name and Harvard, Harvard, Harvard!


Over at Gawker again this week, Phyllis Nefler reviews the weddings section of The New York Times.

It seems that almost every week new wedding trends emerge at Altarcations, some great, some lamentable, from dumpster photo shoots to demanding butler service to ridiculously epic videos.

This week's trend?  Harvard!

Harvard! HARVARD! Nearly 40% of the announcements this weekend contained the magic word, the crimson ticket. Brides and grooms went there, go there, worked there, grew up there, met there, returned there, "from which"'d there, received there, earned there, and graduated there. And some? Some even wed there.

But Nefler had other names than Harvard on her mind as well; she delves into name hyphenating and grooms just taking their brides' names.


Read Nefler's take on these real brides at Altarcations here!

It Takes A Village To Pay For A Wedding?


Yesterday we told you about how Phylis Nefler took time away from her usual "Altarcations" post to discuss the recent New York Times article about how the burden of paying for weddings is "shifting."

Well, the eyes of other bloggers were caught by that NYT article too, particularly bloggers planning wedding!

Dodai over at Jezebel weighs in on it this morning: "The question is: Does that mean your family should help pay? Part of me says no: Dues are paid in the raising of a child. Once that child is grown, the least she could do is buy those villagers dinner and a cocktail. Of course, the other part of me is broke. Still, I don't know that asking for financial help for a wedding is classy. (But accepting  funds to make the day great? That's just polite!)"

Check out the full post here.

Are members of your extended family helping to pay for your wedding costs?

How Harmful is Fighting with Your Fiancé on Facebook?


The New York Times published an article yesterday warning that if you bicker with your fiancé or husband on Facebook, it may be very harmful to your relationship: "Some marriage experts say [Facebook fighting] represents a gradual but significant degradation of our regard for marriage."

Yikes!  So much for just 'blowing off steam!'

An expert goes on, "From the Victorian era through the 1950s, marriage was viewed as the source of all safety from a predatory world," which he claims involved keeping arguments, both big and small,  private, "to keep a public face of harmony."

These experts certainly have a point; we are a society of over-sharers and voyeurs.  However, confiding in a friend or relative that you're upset with your spouse is hardly new, nor is others overhearing the gossip.

Facebook just presents it on a larger scale.  Which is maybe the problem: Complaining to your sister is one thing.  Announcing it to a group which includes a second grade classmate you haven't spoken to in years and half your co-workers is quite another...

If You Got Married This Weekend, Altarcations Has a Bone to Pick with You!


Every week week we direct you to Altarcations, the always fun and often snarky feature over at Gawker in which Phyllis Nefler reviews the Weddings & Celebrations section of The New York Times.

Altarcations has been a bit less "fun" lately, though.  First when New York state politics briefly became a focus, and second when Nefler missed the following week for her well-deserved vacation.  We were thrilled to have her back last week, but this week's edition of Altarcations reveals a new thorn in Nefler's side: Those who marry at Christmas time.

Of course, we're all exaggerating here; Nefter's recent and brief bits of "anger" are much more playful than how we're making them seem.  Check out this week's Altarcations here.

How the First Couple Affects Modern Married Life


The New York Times published an article this week called The First Marriage, all about how the Obama's personal relationship is being affected by their professional and political life, and influencing other modern marrieds.  It's an interesting angle to explore: Can a couple truly be equals when one of them is the President?

Check out the full NYT article here.

Okay, very few of us will ever be (or be married to) a President.  Still, it's an interesting scenario to compare against the different responsibilities and power dynamics that exist in all marriages.

We're not a political blog at all; we just like to talk about love, romance, wedding planning and married life... and we think their married life looks pretty cool!  However you feel about Obama as our President, you have to admit that it's kinda great that he's keeping "date night" alive in spite of his schedule, and his opponents attempts to turn his life with his wife into something political they can attack.