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It Takes A Village To Pay For A Wedding?


Yesterday we told you about how Phylis Nefler took time away from her usual "Altarcations" post to discuss the recent New York Times article about how the burden of paying for weddings is "shifting."

Well, the eyes of other bloggers were caught by that NYT article too, particularly bloggers planning wedding!

Dodai over at Jezebel weighs in on it this morning: "The question is: Does that mean your family should help pay? Part of me says no: Dues are paid in the raising of a child. Once that child is grown, the least she could do is buy those villagers dinner and a cocktail. Of course, the other part of me is broke. Still, I don't know that asking for financial help for a wedding is classy. (But accepting  funds to make the day great? That's just polite!)"

Check out the full post here.

Are members of your extended family helping to pay for your wedding costs?

Sexology is the Secret to a Happy Marriage?


Check out this great old ad for Sexology that we found over at Jezebel.

We love their quote, too: "I know we like to get our sex advice from the "Puritan Publishing Company!"

A Great Image of a White Wedding


Check out this great image we found over at Jezebel.

"A Chinese wedding couple poses for photos after a heavy snowfall in Beijing on January 3, 2010. The Chinese capital received its heaviest daily snowfall in nearly six decades, it was reported, with the Central Meteorological Administration reporting that up to 30 centimetres (12 inches) had fallen on Beijing and Tianjin over the weekend."

We love that it captures the hard work of the wedding photographer to create what is sure to be an amazing and unusual wedding picture.  A nice day for a white wedding, indeed!

Chelsea Clinton Just Got Engaged


Former First Daughter and current... er... what do you call the daughter of our Secretary of State?...  Whatever, ever since Jake Trapper announced the engagement at 9:18 this morning, blogs everywhere are exploding with the news that Chelsea Clinton is now officially engaged to longtime boyfriend Marc Mezvinsky.

Reports were that they were going to marry on Martha's Vineyard this past summer, but the pair deny that was ever the plan.  They write, "We didn't get married this past summer despite the stories to the contrary, but we are looking toward next summer."

Check out the full story here.

Congratulations Chelsea and Marc!

What Does it Really Mean to be a Good Wife?


The Times of London is running a piece about what it means to be a "good wife." Moreover, it's aimed at men and urges them to be better husbands.

Written by Shane Watson, it's broken down into pointed sections:

  • "Make Him a Priority"
  • "Have Sex"
  • "Beware Resentment"
  • and "Be Kind and Supportive"

...before segueing into a companion piece, "How to Be a Good Husband," by Matt Rudd.

It's an interesting, and controversial, article: It addresses culture, history, feminism, parenting, career and much more.  And it's begging to be debated.  What's your take?

Running Of the Fiancees


Today's "snap judgement" at Jezebel.

"Brides run during a parade of fiancees in central Kursk on July 5, 2009. Some 500 brides took part in the parade."

The War On "Wife"


Okay brides-to-be, any thoughts on the decades-long debate about using the word "wife" in a non-spousal way?

Today on Jezebel, a lefty/feminist blog that we sometimes think is okay and sometimes don't, there is an interesting post: Why I (Don't) Want A Wife.

Ever since Judy Syfers wrote "Why I Want a Wife" in 1971, people have been using the word "wife" to refer to non-spouses who perform traditional "wifely" chores, like cleaning. The latest culprit: a service called The Occasional Wife.

Jezebel is, of course, totally against using the word in that way, but what do you think?  Is using the word "wife" in this way offensive or playful?  Or both?  Does the fact that "husband" and "husbandly duties" are also used as metaphors or euphemisms make it all okay?

Equally In Love


When a feminist gets married, is she "selling out"?  We say: No, of course not.  That's silly!  Feminism is all about equality and choice, and so it's perfectly fine for a feminist to choose to get married.

But others disagree.  Just as we posted last month about how noted feminist activist Jessica Valenti was being attacked by some conservatives who felt that marriage and feminism were at odds, now her upcoming wedding is in the news again because it's being attacked by some liberals who call her a "sell out."

We're baffled by this.  We really don't see what the issue is.  Anyone care to spell it out for us?

Love & Politics


Emotions can run high for all involved throughout the wedding planning stages, right through the ceremony and reception.  That not news, but more and more lately we hear about brides who are pressured in all sorts of ways from friends and family on the "political implications" of their wedding.

Here is a post from the popular lefty blog Jezebel, about how conservatives supposedly don't even want heterosexual feminists to get married.  Included in it is a cached post from right-wing blog NRO that "mysteriously disappeared" shortly after being uploaded, which attacks feminist blogger Jessica Valenti for getting married because she is a feminist activist.

Right now marriage laws are changing all over the country to be either more or less inclusive, as you and your guests are fully aware.  Jezebel is known to over-react and over-simplify things, and NRO is known to be judgemental and nasty, so we're just using this as an imperfect example.  But it begs the questions: Should politics affect your wedding planning decisions at all?  Do your guests have the right to discuss them with you?  Is anyone owed an explanation?

Has politics become part of your wedding?

Recycled Dresses


Check out this funny blog post over at Jezebel that begins: I'll readily admit to being the world's worst most inept, overwhelmed, procrastinating bride. But! The one thing that's taken care of is my dress. I'll just wear the one I got for my first engagement.

What do you think?  Would you recycle a gown that never got it's day when it was supposed to?