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Save the Date Invitations: Etiquette for Drawing Up Your Final Guest List


Depending on the size of your wedding, one of the most difficult decision processes is drawing up your final guest list. Before sending out save the date invitations, there is a lot to consider. Should the coworker who you are on friendly terms with yet don't spend time with outside of work be invited? What about distant cousins you haven't spoken with in ten years? Or the old friend from junior high school who surprisingly invited you to her own wedding last year?

Coworkers and Church Friends
Save the date invitation etiquette can be ambiguous. But there are a few rules of thumb that aid in the process. For groups of people – such as coworkers or church friends – you should invite all of them or none of them. With the exception of a coworker who has become a close friend, and whom you spend personal time with, it should be clear that you either decided to invite colleagues from your department, or you simply couldn’t invite any. Dealing with it in a “cut and dry” manner can help avoid hurt feelings.

The same theory goes for church friends. If you aren't pressed to cut down on your guest list, and you are inclined to do so, then go ahead and invite the 15 members of your community group. But unless you are close friends with someone, it's not obligatory to invite them.

Family Members
With family members, there is an inevitably more grey area. If you're doing a lot of the planning with a parent, he or she may have strong feelings about which family members are invited. Use discretion, and remember that this is your big day and you can invite who you want. If you have a great aunt who loves to know what's going on in your life, or who always remembers to call you on your birthday, then she would obviously be hurt if she were left out.

If you have a lot of family out of state (even if they are unlikely to attend), it is still best to send them wedding save the date invitations, as they will want to feel like they are part of the celebration. They'll also want to know where you are registered, or if you have a wedding website where they can look at engagement photos or find updates on your choice of honeymoon destination.

For out of state family members who plan to attend your wedding, they will need to know your wedding date three to six to even eight months (if travel is required) in advance so they can begin looking into travel arrangements like airfares and hotels. Depending on your wedding location, they may even want to make their annual vacation as part of this trip.

It is completely acceptable to send save the date invitations by email. Not only does this cut down on cost, it's convenient for everyone involved. Just keep in mind that some people may not have access to email or a computer, and in that case, make sure the word gets out to them via airmail or phone.

Read more: How to Make Sure They'll Really "Save the Date", Guests You Don't Want to Invite, But Have To! and Who to Invite to Your Bridal Shower

Demoting My Maid Of Honor... And Other Items On My Checklist


<i>Celebrity weddings and glamorous bridal magazines are a lot of fun, but nothing’s more helpful than learning how real brides plan their big day.

Meet OWD's Real Brides: real OurWeddingDay.com Brides-to-be sharing their experiences.  It’s not about the “right” way to plan; it’s about each bride planning the wedding that’s right for her.

Natalie from Irving, TX writes: </i>

The week started with finding out that my Maid-of-Honor betrayed my trust on something significant, so she has now been placed as 3rd out of 7 ladies in the lineup...still keeping her in the bridal party because she's already purchased her dress.

I met with the florist and loved what I saw; we just received their proposal yesterday from our meeting 5 days ago.  We have some questions and changes to be made to it, but we're closer to getting the florist lined-up for our big day.  We're in communication with the photographer/videographer but we haven't come to a final decision and signed contract yet; still have a couple loose ends to cover with them before we feel comfortable locking things down with them and signing a contract.

The invitations are currently with the calligrapher until tonight; I will go and pick them up after 6pm.  I will be able to stuff the envelopes tonight and tomorrow to hopefully get them all into the mail by tomorrow late afternoon...with the wedding May 29th, we're running out of time to get these out to our guests.

The wedding dress came in yesterday that I ordered back on January 20th, so I plan to pick this up on the 15th of March.  Today, I am custom-creating the Thank You cards, just as I did with the invitations, using MyGatsby.com.  And in this last week, I managed to get the guest book ordered, ring bearer pillow ordered, sand and sand vases ordered and engraved for the unity ceremony, gem confetti ordered, my garter ordered, and monogrammed cake knives, Swavorski crystal cake topper and six-pence all ordered.

:-D Yay!...My list is dwindling.

Happy Planning!

Wedding Invitations for the Book Lover in You


Are you one of those cute, bookish couples?  Do you enjoy being curled up on the couch with your fiancé with a good book and a big mug of coffee (or hot chocolate, we certainly wouldn't want to isolate our audience!)?

Check out these newly released, and extremely adorable, Penguin Publishers themed wedding invitations from Greenwich Letterpress.  And check out the bottom of the invite -- "Unabridged Celebration".  Because who would want the party to end?  Definitely not us!  Unabridged wedding celebrations are what the OurWeddingDay team lives for.

And no, we're not kidding.  This kind of stuff gets us every time!

Diana & Scott's Books of Love


Creativity is in full bloom this spring!  We recently posted about Matt & Jill's awesome invitations, Adam & Halli's big top blow-out and Chip & Brenda's amazing invites, but what we though were just a few posts is turning into an exciting series!

Check out these adorable library themed wedding invitations courtesy of Diana and Scott, who coincidentally were both librarians when they met and fell in love.  Everything about these invitations is too cute, from the library date stamp for the wedding date, to the reception rules and the warning, "Library is not responsible for lost of damaged invitations."

Rockin' Wedding Invitations


It's no surprise that couples in Seattle are employing the talents of local graphic designers to personalize their wedding invitations: The Washington city is known throughout the world as an indie-rock hot-spot. But these wedding invitations, like that famous Seattle Sound, are like nothing you've ever seen before.

Yesterday's Seattle Times reported that Seattle-based designer Matt Terich makes rock poster-like wedding invitations, in addition to his poster work for bands. And what are guests' reactions to the invitations?

"They thought it was the coolest thing they'd ever seen. Open it up and it's a really cool poster. ... A lot of our friends and our relatives have even kept them and left them up in their homes."

Do you or your groom have that rock star attitude?  Do you think your friends and family would rock out! or just recycle this unique invitation?

Check out the story HERE.

What do you think?